3 Heart Lessons Learned at the School of Hard Knocks

3 Heart Lessons Learned at the School of Hard Knocks

My students loved it when I graded on the curve. As a teacher, I accepted that if no one got a perfect score on the test, then a little adjustment was required. Consider it “educational grace.”

I spent seventeen years in a high school classroom. As the years progressed, I became more and more lenient. A note from Mom meant you got an extra day to finish your homework. I started grading student work in pencil, rather than bleeding in red all over their words and hearts.

Life will either soften you to the humanity in others, or you become jaded and untractable.

I want to be a sponge, not a rock. I want to be a safe place to land, not a stumbling block.

God has softened me to the brokenness in others by providing me some painful “field trips.” Over the last 9 years, I’ve experienced miscarriage, sickness, and depression. I’ve grieved the loss of loved ones, and I’ve walked with those who are grieving.

I’ve hit rock bottom and found that God is still there.

Learning is a gift… even when pain is your teacher. I am so thankful that my God writes in pencil and that He understands my weakness. I am thankful that God provides a learning curve of grace.

I am a work in progress. You are a work in progress. God is not finished teaching us yet, and we have much to learn still.

As an ongoing student enrolled in the School of Hard Knocks, I’ve come to understand that I need to play well with others. I have an enemy, but he is not flesh and blood. My “schoolmates” are fighting hard to make it through each day, and my job is to encourage, to pray, to listen, and to refrain from judgment.

Teaching cured me of “perfectionism.” I’ve learned that rules are meant to give you structure, but you also need to be a little flexible. It’s okay to color outside the lines sometimes.

I am going to make mistakes. You are going to make mistakes. Your best teacher may just be your last mistake. Mistakes are just unexpected learning experiences. Pain and sorrow and failure are portals to discovery.

As I’ve surrendered my brokenness to the Master Teacher, I’ve learned to a few heart lessons….and today I want to share them with you. Maybe this will encourage you if you are in a hard place.

3 Heart Lessons Learned at the School of Hard Knocks

Cultivate thankfulness.

Today is a gift. Hebrews 12:15 encourages me to “keep a sharp eye out for weeds of bitter discontent.” A heart of gratitude is a teachable heart.

Choose to love and forgive.

I’ve learned to let go of my expectations and and allow others room to be human. I Peter 4:8 reminds me: “Love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything.”

Cooperate with others humbly, rather than give in to selfish comparison.

I want to be a grace giver who learns from the stories of others. Romans 12:17 & 18 in The Message challenge: “Don’t hit back; discover beauty in everyone. If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody. Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do.

Maybe you’ve been holding on to your red pen for too long, and you need to pick up your pencil. Who do you need to extend grace to today?

Maybe you think you are failure because of your mistakes. Listen to the gentle voice of your Teacher. There is grace for you. He is not finished with you yet.

May this be our prayer as we sit in God’s schoolroom and listen up: “Show me how You work, God, school me in Your ways.” Psalm 25:4, MSG

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  1.  Write out Psalm 25:4 or grab the free printable graphic from the Faith Fuel Library. Post it on your fridge or computer screen or bathroom mirror — somewhere. where you will see it and remember.
  2. Spend a few minutes each morning this week inviting God to teach you. Tell Him you are ready and willing to learn. Read a short passage in the Bible with pen in hand. (Suggestion: Proverbs is a good place to turn if you are in need of wisdom. Today is the 17th — Read Proverbs 17.)
  3. At the close of your day, set aside a few minutes to sit quietly before the Lord. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit in a comfy chair thinking over your day and asking the Holy Spirit to teach you. If you have a notebook or journal, keep it close by with your favorite pen just in case you want to record a nugget of wisdom.
  4. Close your time of reflection in prayer. Place your hands in your lap with palms open and up ready to receive. Surrender you day to the Lord. Tell Him you are listening.

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15 Comments

  1. These are great lessons. I agree, our own hard times can definitely help us develop compassion and understanding for others. It’s amazing to see God bring good out of them in this way.

  2. So enjoyed reading this today, Lyli. Most of us, if not all, relate. And coloring outside the lines? Yes! 🙂 Here’s my fav sentence that popped right off the page: “I’ve hit rock bottom and found that God is still there.” God is with us. Amen.

  3. So grateful that “God writes in pencil,” and I’m joining with you in the prayer to be continually a sponge and not a rock! Thanks, Lyli, for the way you share your heart!

  4. I love this, Lyli: “I want to be a sponge, not a rock.” Being broken ourselves is often the catalyst for teaching us how to minister to others who are broken. Pain is definitely a teacher, sometimes a gentle one and sometimes hard. So grateful for God to ease the rough spots.

  5. You know? That school of hard knocks stands the test of time doesn’t it? It’s only a school if there are lessons to learn. Praise God for His way of healing hard knocks and using scars for His glory!

  6. God has been leading me to pray through Psalm 25 for the past several months. I am always amazed at how God speaks to us as His body-people far apart and in different circumstances and situations, but He is leading us in the same direction.

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